Surgery #2 (ear)

On Wednesday our oldest had another surgery, 6/20/18.

She already had one surgery back in February on her right ear, eardrum reconstructive surgery, and it didn't work. Last time doctor used premade material for an eardrums This time doctor used a different material, a muscle from her jaw, and doctor tried to fix her left ear.

We are praying it will work, and she will get a normal hearing.

She been half deaf since she was a small child, and she doesn't even know what is like to have a normal hearing.

Our beautiful daughter deserves to be happy, and be healthy!

We are praying that her hearing will be normal, and she can enjoy her life more!

Surgery #1

One of the girls, our oldest,  came to us with missing eardrums(big holes in her eardrums), plus a little bone behind an eardrum was partially gone.

It took us sometime to get things settled, and get her an insurance.

We saw two different doctors. First doctor said that it cannot be repaired do to how bad it was damaged. The doctor told us that this surgery needed to be done long, long time ago, and that we lost a lot of time by waiting. :( I asked him to refer us to a different doctor, for a second opinion.

About a week later we saw a different doctor, and this doctor told us that there is a chance, and he was willing to try it...  He said that they will try to use all the materials they have, but he might need to get a piece of her jaw bone to repair missing, little bone in her ear, and might need to use a muscle from her jaw to repair her eardrum.

We were excited to finally schedule her a surgery!  She had her first surgery on February 7, 2018, on her right ear.
Surgery went well, it took them about 1 hour and a half from start to finish. We will see a doctor in first week of March, and will know more how it went and whats in the future. She still can't hear well, hoping for some improvement.

Recovery was hard, but she is so strong, she was in pain but tried hard to be in a positive mood.

She couldn't eat, was dizzy, in pain and didn't really leave her bed for at least 4 days.
I am so happy that it's over, and now is is back to her normal, happy self.

RG-6 months home

This beautiful young lady joined our family almost 6 month ago! She was 18 when she came to us.

To be honest with you, we thought that we will not make it, and her stay with us will be very short. She came with a lot of trauma, hurt and trust issues!

We are blessed to know God and to believe in HIM, we are thankful that He gave us His eyes! We saw a beautiful, happy, honest, respectful child under all those layers of hate, hurt, and pain! She was like a wild animal when she came to us! She was in survival mode, and her goal was to survive no matter what! She could rely only on herself! She didn’t trust anyone, and we were no one to her!

There are two reasons why I am not sharing everything we went through:

 #1-This is her story to tell, and if someday she wants to share it, it is up to her!

#2-If I share how hard it was for us to love her, and accept her, and how we survived… I will have to share everything what she went through in her life, everything that is still a mystery to us, everything that made her the way she was 6 months ago and today!
The way she was or is, it is not her fault! Life, trauma, not caring adults, made her!She learned to not trust anyone, and hurt everyone who love her! She learned to not attach and to not show emotions!

If it was a hard time for us to accept her, and learn to love her, can you imagine how hard it was for her to trust us, and love us after what she went through?
After her traumatized life as an abandoned child, after spending years, years in the orphanage?!
After all those years, and everything that had happen to her, today she is making progress! She is trying! She is healing!

We are still having issues! We are still working on things, but with God, and His help, with love we can make a difference!

We are thankful to you my dear daughter, thankful for not giving up!

 For not giving up on adults!

For not giving up on family!

For not giving up on your life!

Today, you are still fighting “monsters” from your past, but you are strong, and I and dad know that you can do this! We will do our best to help you with anything you need and we will be there for you! 

Just remember, you are loved!
You are a daughter!
You are a sister!
You have a whole "gang" behind you! Yes, it is not easy to learn to live as a family, and it is not always easy to learn to love, get along with your siblings, but believe me, it is a blessing to have a family! All of us learning to something everyday, and we all have issues to work on! 

We believe in this beautiful lady! 

Please stay the way you are while you dance through this life! We love you!