After I posted that we are trying to find a family for EE and DD, we got many replies and few comments made us think and realize things that we didn't even think before. Thank you everyone!
Everyone who was following our story, knows that less then a 1 year ago we brought two boys from Ukraine. They attached very well, but there is still many issues we are dealing with. Lately it seems like all our kids decided to test our patience :) Sometimes it does feel like we already have too much!
I know that devil is not sleeping and it's not in his interest for these boys to be happy and have a family. It make is extra hard on us that our community doesn't understands adoption. Our family, friends dont understand us, and we do have many "negative " talks almost everyday.
Please pray for our family. We believe that God is in control, and we know that there is no mistake why these awesome boys are in our family. Boys are happy with us and we don't want to traumatize them more!
We are thankful to everyone who had contacted us, and for everyone who is just praying for EE and DD. I will reply to all e-mails as soon as I can.
Are you going to keep them? I think this would be so fantastic!
ReplyDeleteChristie, please pray. We do want to keep them! We are praying and relying on God.
DeletePraying for you guys Tatyana. It is hard when those around you don't understand. Just hang in there because God will clearly show you what to do.
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Thank you Tina.
DeleteHello Tatyana!!! My name is Aury, I have been following your blog for almost two years , and I'm from a country that maybe you won't belive , DOMINICAN REPUBLIC. :)
ReplyDeleteMaybe you need some respite service for you and your family, sometimes a month. My friend use that service once at month , her kids spend that day playing, having fun and learning, so she can spend sometime with two of her children , every time she switch the kids, 4 go to respite and 2 stay with her. It really works for her and the children.
It's not that you can't handle the children, it's just that every body who have children in the process of attachment , adopted or biological , need to spend special time with every child. That's why she does it, and maybe that will give the time to think and get the wisdom that you need.
It's really good for every body, i have seen the change in her home. I hope that all you're children ,including EE and DD and you ,get wisdom from God.
Praying for you and your family.
Hi Aury, thank you for reading and following our blog :)Thank you for your prayers! It is a good idea, we will look into it. It just hard to find a person who we can trust, and who can handle our kids. Most of our kids are not ready to be left with others, with out our supervision. Thank you again :)
DeleteTanya, you are absolutely right. Slavic community here has very little understanding and support for international adoption and what the adoptive families are going through. We had (and still have) very little, almost zero support from relatives, family and friends. People close to us would mention that probably we made a mistake and didn't ask God first. One very respected pious lady in a church said that our child has 'bad genes' and so on.
ReplyDeleteWell meaning relatives on both sides would put tremendous pressure on my husband when he was alone without me. I could write volumes and volumes about this misunderstanding in our comminity and I can see about how far advanced American churches are in their love and care for orphans.
And one point I just stopped picking up the phone or going to church when my husband was not home, to avoid the looks and the advise I did not ask for.
You have to stick with your husband, with your convictions and fight for what you feel is right - be it respite family, adoption or another family for your boys. You are the parents and you know what would be best for these kids.
Yuliya, this is exactly what we are going through. I know you understand :)
DeleteWe are praying for our kids, and asking God wisdom, so one day God's glory will shine through our life and life's of our kids.
Thank you for your support!
Just today I came across a photo with the caption, "Let not the opinions of MAN interfere with the directions given to you by GOD." You are a wonderful, loving family and you definitely realize that the devil likes to interfere with godly families and he wants orphans to be miserable. Do not let others discourage you. You have our love and support no matter how God leads your family. I will be praying for you guys.
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